MASTURBATION

Masturbation is the sexual pleasure obtained from sex-arousal of the genital organs to orgasm. It is the act of giving and attaining to oneself sexual satisfaction through means other than the opposite sex. In the Bible, it falls under the group of vices called sexual immorality. It is a vice. This means that it is the opposite of a virtue. It is not something that one can come out openly to boast about. It is a shameful act.

Why do People Masturbate?

1. They are sexually tensed up
2. They do not have access to the opposite sex:
   1. They are not bold enough to get one (a lot of introverts masturbate).
   2. They are not old enough to get an active sex partner.
   3. They are religiously bound to stay away from sex until they marry.
   4. Their partners are away for a long time. This is for married people!
   5. Peer Pressure. This is always the case in the boarding houses of our secondary schools. There you find seniors who instruct the juniors to masturbate them. Even the juniors also masturbate, thinking “If my seniors could do it, why can’t I?”
   6. Fear of AIDS. Their argument is that if they masturbate, they can’t catch AIDS since it’s only about them. They forget that there are terrible effects of masturbation that could even be worse than AIDS.
   7. They don’t want to unite themselves with another person.
   8. They expose themselves to different kinds of pornography. You would notice that I talked about different kinds of pornography. One very subtle type is the natural pornography. This is when an individual continually tries to access and view the private parts of living beings without their permission. They forget that what the are looking at cannot be enjoyed by them after they have seen it.

How do people feel after masturbation?

1. Physically satisfied
2. Emotionally wounded
3. Spiritually condemned
4. Self condemnation and rejection follows

Consequences of Masturbation
I’m aware that a lot people don’t see anything wrong with masturbation.  Even some medical personnel can advise you to do masturbation. I’ve read all manner of things on the internet of what people have to say about masturbation. But while reading all of those stuffs, there is need to also listen to the voices of the numerous lives that are being destroyed by masturbation on a daily basis. I want to take a look at the terrible consequences of masturbation that people don’t talk about.

1. Spiritual consequences;
2. Socially, it prepares those who indulge in it to live independent of the opposite sex (loss of sex drive towards the opposite sex) and thwart the realization of harmonious relationships between husband and wife.
3. Psychological consequences is that is condemns the person into believing he or she is abnormal and internally very weak. Such a person can hardly believe in his ability to resist un-desirous passions.
4. Physical consequences:
   1. Fatigue. Feeling tired all the time even without doing any work. They look worried and sometimes confused. This is because when you lose your semen through masturbation, you lose body nutrients.
   2. Some masturbation patients suffer from lower back pain.
   3. They suffer stress and anxiety. They make unnecessary mistakes on their job.
   4. People who masturbate eventually suffer from soft or weak erection otherwise referred to as youth impotence. (Masturbation is like using a material when it is still supposed to grow or be preserved).
   5. They suffer pre-mature ejaculation. Masturbation trains the body system to ejaculate. For many masturbation addicts, every time their sexual feeling is triggered off, they ejaculate.
   6. Some suffer from semen leakage. When they think about a lady, they notice the semen coming.
   7. Reduction in the penis size or shrinkage of the penis at the base.
   8. Many masturbation addicts suffer “mood-swings”. They may be laughing this moment and the next moment, they get depressed and angry, they slip back to their shell and masturbate.
   9. Lack of concentration. They feel the urge and signal to masturbate even when they are busy on a job.
   10. Some who have gone too far into masturbation may suffer insomnia (sleeplessness) and poor memory.

When you know the full consequences of a habit, it is not totally difficult to quit that habit. People keep masturbating because they are ignorant of the terrible effects. A lot of adolescents in secondary school innocently indulge in masturbation because they don’t know anything about the grave consequences. All they hear from their peers is that masturbation is fun.
Spiritually, masturbation invites demonic powers that have the capacity to take control of the will and manipulate it to their own goals and profit. I know of a marriage being wrecked by the demonic spirits contacted by the wife through masturbation. Too often we think that masturbation is a male 'disease.' This notion is very very false. It is a very common thing among the female folk. In this case, the woman who had been masturbating before marriage came into the marriage with this 'presence.' In my counseling with the couple, the husband disclosed how he constantly felt this third party each time they met. He said that on other occasions, he was confronted in dreams by a spirit warning him against interfering in 'his' relationship.
Today, the lady is possessed and fears any relationship with the husband. The cause of this fear is completely unknown to her and the husband. It was not until the husband opened up that I began to 'suspect' the root of this matter. I also discovered that in spite of the several times she had reached orgasm, the husband was not instrumental to them. She would have to 'massage' herself in order to reach her peaks. This is what happens when the practice of masturbation becomes a habit. The opposite sex cannot satisfy you and it can be very frustrating for the both parties especially for the innocent party. The person continually feels incompetent and sometimes 'selfish.'

In my next article in this series, I’d show you how to deal with masturbation. Don’t miss that. God bless you. (by Papa CNC Onyeledo)
………To be continued (watch out for “How to Quit Masturbation”)